Eleanor Roosevelt was born on October 11, 1884 in New York City. She was the oldest of her parents’ three children. Her father, Elliott Roosevelt, was the younger brother of President Theodore Roosevelt. Her mother, Anna Hall Roosevelt, was a descendent of a wealthy New York family who expected her children to live up to upper-class society’s high standards. She often criticized her shy and socially awkward daughter for not being more outgoing and naturally beautiful.
By the age of 10, both of Eleanor’s parents had died. Anna died of diphtheria in 1892. Elliott died of health complications related to drug and alcohol addiction less than two years later. Eleanor lived with her grandmother.
Eleanor received the best possible education. When she was 15 years old, she moved to England to attend the Allenswood School. There, her teachers noticed that the reserved Eleanor was highly intelligent. They encouraged her to use her mind and ignore criticisms like those she had received from her mother.
By the time Eleanor returned to New York three years later, she was a more confident young woman. Although she agreed to participate in balls, teas, and other events expected of young women in high society, she also dedicated time to helping the wider New York City community. She volunteered with the Junior League and the Rivington Street Settlement House. While many members of elite New York donated money to charity, Eleanor felt it was important to donate time and energy. She wanted to meet the people she was helping and offer her knowledge and skills.
Eleanor married her fifth cousin, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, on March 17, 1905. Eleanor’s uncle, President Theodore Roosevelt, walked her down the aisle. Eleanor felt she fulfilled her duty as a young lady through the marriage. Franklin was a promising young political figure and member of the New York elite.
The next decade of Eleanor’s life was primarily focused on married life. She had six children, took care of the house, and supported her husband’s career. Her commitment to family was so strong and her domestic duties so intense that she put her volunteer and activism work aside.
In 1918, Eleanor was heartbroken when she discovered that Franklin had an affair with her social secretary, Lucy Mercer. Eleanor confronted Franklin, but once again fulfilled her social duty by agreeing to stay married to him. Although they remained together, their relationship changed. They supported one another, but did not have the same emotional connection.
Franklin’s betrayal, along with volunteer experiences during World War I, motivated Eleanor to re-prioritize her life. She found time to return to her personal passions. She developed a close circle of friends and advisors equally interested in social reform. Together, they raised awareness on issues of child labor, tenement conditions, education reform, and civil rights.
In the summer of 1921, Franklin contracted polio. Although he survived, he was paralyzed in his legs and required use of a wheelchair for the rest of his life. Franklin thought his political career was over, but Eleanor refused to allow him to give up. She encouraged him to continue working and used her own growing political network to bolster his career.
By the end of the 1920s, Eleanor believed not only that women needed to regularly vote, but also that they needed to involve themselves in politics and social reform. According to her, women had a duty to fight for their own rights. They could not assume equal rights would be offered to them by men in power. Women needed to be leaders.
In 1928, Franklin was elected governor of New York. Just four years later, in 1932, he was elected president of the United States. Eleanor was reluctant about her new role as first lady. She did not want to live a public life, nor did she want to sacrifice her role as an activist. But soon Eleanor realized that she could use her role to make a difference. The nation was suffering under the Great Depression and her husband had a tremendous task ahead of him. Eleanor had been a vital support to Franklin earlier in his career, and she could do it again as first lady.
Franklin’s schedule and physical disability limited his traveling. But Eleanor had few formal obligations and no major physical impediments. This allowed her to become Franklin’s eyes and ears beyond the White House. She traveled across the country, meeting with men, women, and children in need. She visited factories, tenements, mines, and agricultural fields. She provided a smile and a message of encouragement to those who hoped for change.
Although Eleanor was eager to work and serve her country, holding such a high-profile position did not come easily to her. Her relationship with Franklin was more professional than personal, so Eleanor sought support from others. In the 1930s, one of her closest relationships was with newspaper reporter Lorena Alice Hickok, who was often called “Hick.” Eleanor and Hick were close companions who confided in one another through long, personal letters. Hick encouraged Eleanor to hold regular press conferences and to start a weekly column called My Day. Although it is impossible to know how they interacted in private, many historians agree that their letters strongly suggest a romantic relationship. Regardless, Hick played a critical role in Eleanor’s transition from private citizen to national public advocate.
Through My Day and other columns, Eleanor shared what she experienced with a wider audience. She encouraged Americans to write to her. She received hundreds of thousands of letters, and she did her best to respond to as many as possible.
Constituents were smart to seek Eleanor’s attention because she had the president’s ear. Eleanor knew Franklin longer than almost any of his advisors. As his wife, she could say things to him that others could not. She told him what she saw while traveling and what she read in letters she received. She talked to him about her work as a grassroots activist and settlement worker. Her ideas had significant influence on his New Deal policies.
Eleanor was an advocate for women in government. She reminded Franklin that women were capable of incredible social reform, and encouraged him to hire women from across the country to work in the federal government.
The basis of success in a Democracy is really laid down by the people. It will progress only as their own personal development goes forward.
The role of first lady brought Eleanor in contact with people who had not been part of her world as New York socialite and housewife. Eleanor quickly became an advocate for the African American community. She supported the formation of an informal Black cabinet and recruited Black activists (and friends) like Mary McLeod Bethune for high-ranking positions within the federal government. She traveled across the country and attended civil rights conventions. In 1939, she famously canceled her membership to the Daughters of American Revolution (DAR) after the DAR refused to allow African American opera singer Marian Anderson to perform in their theater because of her race. Although she was not always able to bring about change, Eleanor gained the respect of civil rights leaders through her intelligence and willingness to listen.
Eleanor’s commitment to the public and to human rights